The last time I got personal with y’all was back in December 2025.
Whew.
That was over nine months ago. Almost ten.
At the time, I was wrapping up what I called my Phoenix Year. I wrote about softness without surrendering sovereignty, relationships ending, community revealing itself, accepting my own authority, and what happens when you stop looking for the structures you need and start building them yourself.
And I ended that post with a declaration:
2025 was the fire. 2026 is the structure.
I said I was
walking into this year dominant, sovereign, building community, softening when held right, and preparing for partnerships worthy of the woman I had become.
Boy, oh boy, was I right.
2026 has been wild.
Here we are approaching the fourth quarter, and somehow there has been even more shedding. More relationships severed, ended, or simply fallen apart, ultimately for my betterment. More structure,clarity,andmore revealing of the things and parts of myself that I’ve tried to hide from even me, despite being perfectly capable of saying them loudly when I’m alone.
And love? Well.
Little did I know how easy it could be to soften and be held when the right arms presented themselves and safety showed up. Even when frustration showed up with it. Even when truth, honesty, transparency, accountability, and all those other things we swear we want, but don’t always particularly enjoy experiencing in real time, came right along with it.
It’s been a great 2026 so far. It’s also been one hell of a year.
And somewhere in the middle of all of that living, loving, losing, learning, and becoming, I built some shit.
So, let me catch you up.
Welcome back to my Deviant’s Domain.
WTFet Is Up?
While on a business trip in Atlanta back in August, I met a man at a bar. He had a Fet account and, long story short, ended up going to my still locked out, but very much still existing, FetLife account. And to my surprise, the language on my profile had changed.
It now said that I had violated the Terms of Use, Community Guidelines, or whatever the hell it said, and that I was on a “time out.”
Interesting.
Especially considering that I have yet to receive any correspondence from John Baku, his legal team, the caretakers, the admins, or anyone else at FetLife explaining this change, my account status, or anything else.
Because of that, I sent another correspondence. That one has also gone unanswered.
As usual, I’ll link a copy here for anyone who wants to read exactly what I sent, verbatim, with appropriate personal information redacted.
So, apparently, Fet is still... Fet-ing.
(Imma try to remember to link the correspondence here once I publish it. Maybe remind me in the comments?)
So, You Still Building That Platform?
Yes. Slowly.
Ilaunched the KYNKT Community Calendar around May of this year. It did not get much traction, but honestly, that was okay because launching it taught me quite a bit.
It was beautiful. It was pretty. The interface was cleanbut the process behind it was a pain in my ass.
The intake process I established was tedious, and there were far too many manual controls and steps that required me to personally touch them. And while I love y’all, there is only one of me.
I am balancing full-time work, full-time motherhood, being a full-time PhD student, blogging, studying for professional certifications, managing multiple platonic and romantic relationships, managing a household, and generally attempting to be a functioning human being.
So, right now, I am taking those lessons learned and restructuring the KYNKT Community Calendar to simplify the intake process and automate much more of what I was previously doing manually.
When will it be back up? Girl, I don’t know.
Every weekend I say I’m going to work on it, and then life gets in the way, or I simply do not have the energy to do one more fucking thing. So stay tuned and make sure you’re subscribed to the KYNKT newsletter for updates.
As far as the larger KYNKT platform goes, I am still working through the prototype.
The intention and goal remain to launch at least the initial live platform on the one-year anniversary of my FetLife account being locked out in February 2027.
Can I promise you that? No. See aforementioned list of shit I have to do.
But where there’s a will, there’s a way.
And I have a will.
So, again, make sure you’re subscribed to the KYNKT newsletter because when it is time for beta testers, I’ll be looking to y’all for your continued support, which I appreciate every single day.
Scorpio Siren Presents
Every now and then, I host things.
I host because I enjoy community. I enjoy spoiling my people and sharing my blessings with the people around me and creating opportunities for us to have a really good time together, and not alwayssexually.
Sometimes I just want my people in a room together eating good food, talking shit, laughing, learning, exploring, and existing around other people who understand parts of them that they may not get to share everywhere else.
That instinct has turned into a few different things.
Kinky Girls Link
Kinky Girls Link actually started a couple of years ago when I rejoined Fet and found myself looking for local, in-person community with other women and femmes.
I met women who lived in my area online. We spent time together at the Crucible, invited one another to events, and I started hosting Kinky Girls Link gatherings at my house. Happy hours, game nights, crab feasts, and other opportunities to hang out with women who existed somewhere in the kink and kink-adjacent world.
Because while you can do everyday things with your non-kinky friends, you cannot have kinky conversations with everyone as freely as you can amongst the like minded, and sometimes it is refreshing as fuck to just exist around people with whom you don’t have to compartmentalize that part of yourself.
Although those relationships, growing friendships, and once-friendships did not all last, the concept did. The need for that type of community did too.
A femme-focused, male non-inclusive community that wasn’t sex-centered or fuck-focused continued to make sense to me.
So I officially branded it Kinky Girls Link.
Our first official Kinky Girls Link event is a private party at my home in October called Hibachi and Hot Shit.
I’ve invited about ten guests to join me for live hibachi in my backyard, followed by fire play and wax play with a couple of my favorite Dom/mes.
Get it? Hibachi. Hot shit. Fire. Wax.
I thought it was cute.
Our first public, paid Kinky Girls Link event will be Sense Laboratory, held in National Harbor, Maryland, in November. It will be an intentional exploration of sensation, erotic autonomy, curiosity, boundaries, and the different ways our bodies experience sensory play.
I am very much looking forward to both, and I’ll report back.
If you’re interested in Kinky Girls Link, I’ll leave the Telegram community information below ( and all throughout this post).
Join Kinky Girls Link Telegram: https://t.me/kgl2026
KinkStarz & PegStarz
Somewhat recently, I found myself hosting not one, but two exclusive private play parties on back-to-back weekends.
And I had a fucking blast.
Not just because I enjoyed myself, but because I enjoyed curating the vibe. I enjoyed watching the vision come to life. I enjoyed watching my guests explore, engage, and experience themselves in ways that I had not often seen some of them show up before.
And I realized I wanted to do more of that.
Not constantly. Not every weekend. Please. I have enough to do.
But more frequently and more intentionally than I had been.
And thus, KinkStarz was born.
If you are familiar with Pegapalooza at KNKY Lounge, that event originated from an idea I shared with the owner after seeing Pegathon, hosted by HAUS of Obsidian in Baltimore, Maryland.
Pegapalooza became one of the most successful local events that I attended consistently. And while attendance has fluctuated for both Tops and bottoms, the desire, interest, and appetite for that type of experience has not.
So, adjacent to KinkStarz, I launched PegStarz.
And this is where Whore Tour 2026 comes back into the story.
If you recall, I’ve been using my personal and business travel to explore kink, kink-adjacent, and lifestyle spaces in different cities. The point was to actually experience events, hosts, organizers, and communities myself so that when someone asks me about them, I don’t have to say, “Well, I heard...” I can say, “I went. Here was my experience.”
But traveling also taught me something else.
In a lot of places, there simply aren’t as many options as I expected. At least not consistently, and particularly not for the kinds of experiences I prefer. Sometimes it’s the vetting. Sometimes it’s the size of the parties. Sometimes it’s the intention of the event, the perspectives of the attendees, or the experience created for the people participating.
That realization gave me the traveling model for KinkStarz and PegStarz.
The intention is for both brands to eventually travel and partner with local “stars,” hosts, and organizers who align with our values and the way we do what we do to create safe, consensual, autonomous environments for exploration.
So, if you are in the continental United States and are interested in partnering with KinkStarz or PegStarz or potentially being one of our local hosts in 2027, reach out to me on Telegram at The Scorpio Siren.
And if you’re interested in joining either community, I’ve leave those Telegram links around here too.
Join KinkStarz Telegram: https://t.me/KinkStarz
Join the PegStarz Telegram: https://t.me/PegStarz
And Then There’s Vetting
Because I am who I am, the vetting process is strict.
Just as I apply intention and rigor to the people I allow into my personal life, I have to apply that same intention and rigor to the brands, communities, and experiences I am curating.
If you’ve ever been to one of my events, you know I am intentional about the energy and experience I want my guests to have.
That intention does not suddenly stop at the guest list.
I’ve published both the rationale behind the KinkStarz and PegStarz vetting process and the actual standards and policies so nobody has to guess about what I’m doing or why I’m doing it.
Scorpio Siren Presents: The Vetting Process
Scorpio Siren Presents: Event Vetting Standards & Policies
There are already people who have said they are not comfortable sharing their legal identity for access to a kink or kink-adjacent event.
And to them I say: I understand.
But it is non-negotiable.
We all want certain experiences. We are not always willing to pay the price required to access them.
The price for access to the kinds of experiences I am creating and curating requires transparency.
And if you haven’t noticed by now, I am not for everyone. It logically follows that the spaces I build will not be for everyone either.
And that’s okay.
There is a space for you, even if that space is not here with me.
Anyway, That’s What I’ve Been Up To
Now, if you want to know what else I’ve been up to when it comes to life lately, love, legacy, my PhD journey, some additional thoughts about what I’m building, and just my general existence in this upside-down world we’re currently living in, you may want to check out Captain Chaos.
That’s where some of the more personal shit lives.
But here, I just wanted to catch y’all up on where I am, what I’ve been doing with my time, and most importantly, what I’ve been building for this kink community.
Apparently, quite a fucking lot.
2025 was the fire. I told y’all 2026 would be the structure.
And I’m not done yet.
Welcome back to Deviant’s Domain.
Captain Chaos