WhatTheFet Update
The Last Titty Tuesday Until November
Today marks the last Titty Tuesday until November.
First, thank you. Every single person who showed up for NoTittyTuesday helped prove Phase 1 was not just a flash in the pan. We disrupted, we deactivated, and we made it clear that the harm in this space will not go unseen.
It has now been a full month since we heard from John about this protest. It has been three weeks since we responded to that last correspondence. That silence is telling. Caretakers can ignore a post, but they cannot ignore consistent, organized pressure. That is where we come in.
Phase 2 of #WhatTheFet
Here is the roadmap so you can see the whole picture:
September 30 — Last Titty Tuesday (today)
This is our bridge into Phase 2. We close out Phase 1 by keeping the disruption alive one more time, while setting the stage for what comes next.
October — NoTittyTober (Tuesdays October 7, 14, 21, 28)
Every Tuesday in October = NoTittyTuesday
No pics. No videos. Only statuses and writings
At midnight EST, we all switch to the solidarity profile image and keep it up for 24 hours
Why October?
NoTittyTober is designed like No Shave November, a full month of culture shifting disruption. Four consecutive Tuesdays keep pressure on caretakers and create a rhythm that is impossible to ignore. Each week adds momentum, visibility, and solidarity.
Time Zone Conversion for Midnight EST start
9:00 PM PST
10:00 PM MST
11:00 PM CST
12:00 AM EST
5:00 AM BST
6:00 AM CEST
12:00 PM SGT
2:00 PM AEST
Use the new protest image here: NoTittyTuesday Protest Graphic
October 31–November 2 — 72 Hour Strike + Letter Flood
We deactivate for 72 hours
During that time, we write and send letters directly to Fet
Our withdrawal from the platform is paired with a flood of voices they cannot ignore
Important: Before you deactivate, send your letter as a direct message to John Baku at https://fetlife.com/JohnBaku. Then deactivate for the full 72 hours
Why Halloween weekend?
Halloween is one of the busiest weekends of the year for this platform. Deactivating during this time makes the absence loud. Pairing the silence with a coordinated letter flood hits caretakers on two fronts, their traffic and their inbox.
Letter Writing Guidance
Our letters will make the protest harder to dismiss and create a paper trail of accountability.
Structure your letter like this:
Say who you are: member, impacted user, ally
Share your experience, what you have observed, or what others you know have experienced
Name why it matters: bias, safety, accountability, equity
State the change you demand: fair moderation, updated policies, diverse caretakers
Be clear about scale. Do not just center your own story. Make it known how many others are affected. This is not only about Black women. This is about everyone’s safety: men, women, nonbinary members, trans members, queer members, kinksters across the board.
Very important: If you plan to deactivate for the 72 hour strike, send your letter to John Baku’s DM first at https://fetlife.com/JohnBaku. Then proceed with deactivation.
It does not have to be long. It does not have to be perfect. It just has to be honest.
Copy and Paste Option
If you do not have a specific incident to center but still want to raise your voice, you can copy and paste this text into your letter or email:
I am a member of FetLife writing in support of the WhatTheFet protest. I have observed harmful patterns in moderation and safety, including bias, lack of accountability, and inconsistent enforcement of policies. The silence from caretakers in response to these concerns is unacceptable.
This protest is not just about one group. It affects men, women, nonbinary, trans, queer, and kink members across the board. FetLife cannot continue to profit from members while failing to protect them.
I am calling for fair and transparent moderation, clear updated policies, and a diverse caretaker team that reflects the community it serves. The protest will continue until accountability and change are visible.
Where to Send Letters
Send your letters to all of these:
Legal: legal@fetlife.com
Security: security@fetlife.com
Caretakers: caretakers@fetlife.com
John Baku: https://fetlife.com/JohnBaku (before you deactivate)
The Call
We are not asking for scraps of safety. We are demanding accountability.
Our bodies, our stories, our spaces deserve protection. One day was powerful. One month will be undeniable.
Here is what you can do right now:
Mark your calendar for every Tuesday in October
Change your profile image at midnight EST using the protest graphic
Post statuses and writings only on protest days
Write your letter and send it to all four contacts listed above
If you will deactivate for the 72 hour strike, DM your letter to John first, then deactivate
Save your content elsewhere to prepare for Phase 3
Bring one new voice into the protest
Share and repost the solidarity image: DOWNLOAD HERE
The protest continues. The line holds.
#WhatTheFet #NoTittyTober #WhatTheFetHappenedToTheTitties #FetCareFail #CaretakerCallout
Capt. Chaos