WTF Happened to The Titties and More
One Final NoTittyTuesday
We are three weeks into NoTittyTober and the silence keeps speaking.
Each Tuesday this month, the feed goes quieter with fewer titties, fewer pics, and fewer videos. And every time it happens, people notice. They ask questions. They talk. They look around and realize this movement is not fading, it is growing.
Thank you to everyone who has held the line each week, and especially to @OlRedBeard for creating and sharing new protest images without AI after seeing the conversation earlier in the campaign. That initiative captures what this is all about.
A special thank you to everyone, specifically the smaller accounts, that continue to amplify #WhatTheFet with their posts, images, and writings. While it would be nice for larger accounts, including the ones that helped inspire WTF, to participate for what they say they want to see change on Fet, it is the smaller accounts doing the leg work and it shows. You are growing this movement every week.
I will not try to understand the motives of those who talk and do not act, but I want to send all my gratitude to those who talk AND show up through the criticisms and skepticism. When I see this kind of integrity between words and actions, I know these are people worth my follow and support on and off the app. When I see words without actions, I know those people are worth a mute and life goes on even though they will benefit from any progress WTF makes in this space.
#WhatTheFet is not mine, it is ours. If you see a gap, fill it. If something needs doing, do it. This movement belongs to all of us.
Why We’re Doing It This Way
When we launched NoTittyTuesday, it was not about one day of disruption. It was about restarting a conversation that had gone quiet. The point was to wake FetLife up again, to rebuild the momentum from Phase 1, and to remind caretakers that their silence has not gone unnoticed.
NoTittyTober stretched that one-day protest into a month-long rhythm of disruption. Four consecutive Tuesdays of visible absence, no content, only words, show that this community is organized, intentional, and here to stay.
Every week, more people see, understand, and join. That is strategy, that is pressure, that is progress.
What’s Next
We have one final NoTittyTuesday left on October 28 and then we take it further.
October 31 – November 2: 72-Hour Deactivation + Letter Flood
That weekend, we log off and deactivate for 72 hours. While Fet’s busiest weekend goes quiet, we flood their inboxes with our voices, direct letters sharing our experiences, frustrations, and demands. Y’all said you want a content strike? Here it is. Be about it.
Our absence will hit their traffic.
Our letters will hit their inbox.
Both will be impossible to ignore.
Time Zone Conversion for Midnight EST start
9:00 PM PST
10:00 PM MST
11:00 PM CST
12:00 AM EST
5:00 AM BST
6:00 AM CEST
12:00 PM SGT
2:00 PM AEST
Letter Writing Guidance
Your letters do not have to be long or perfect. They just need to be honest.
Structure your message like this:
Say who you are (member, ally, survivor, organizer, observer)
Share what you have experienced or witnessed
Name why it matters (bias, safety, accountability, harm, inconsistency)
State what you want changed (clear policies, fair moderation, diverse caretakers)
This movement began because I, a Black woman, saw other Black women sharing their experiences with harassment, bias, and dismissal on FetLife and refused to stay silent. But this protest is not just for Black women. It is for everyone who has been silenced, dismissed, or endangered here. Men, women, nonbinary members, trans members, queer members, and kinksters of every kind deserve a platform that protects them, not one that profits from their vulnerability.
Our letters turn individual experiences into collective evidence. They make it impossible to pretend this is about one person or one group.
Copy and Paste Option
If you do not have a specific incident to center but still want to raise your voice, you can copy and paste this text into your letter or email:
I am a member of FetLife writing in support of the WhatTheFet protest. I have observed harmful patterns in moderation and safety, including bias, lack of accountability, and inconsistent enforcement of policies. The silence from caretakers in response to these concerns is unacceptable.
This protest is not just about one group. It affects men, women, nonbinary, trans, queer, and kink members across the board. FetLife cannot continue to profit from members while failing to protect them.
I am calling for fair and transparent moderation, clear updated policies, and a diverse caretaker team that reflects the community it serves. The protest will continue until accountability and change are visible.
Where to Send Letters
At midnight EST (see timezone conversions above) on 10/31/2025 (as the day begins) send your letters to all of these:
Legal: legal@fetlife.com
Security: security@fetlife.com
Caretakers: caretakers@fetlife.com
John Baku: https://fetlife.com/JohnBaku (send your letter by DM before you deactivate)
Protest Graphics and Links
NoTittyTuesday image (non-AI): View & Download
72-Hour Deactivation + Letter Flood image: View & Download
Use them. Share them. Keep the feed dark and the conversation alive.
The Call
Keep holding the line. Post your statuses. Remind your circles that we are not done yet. The final NoTittyTuesday is coming and the biggest action of all is right behind it.
Each week, the feed gets quieter, but let’s silence it completely.
Our silence is strategy. Our words are evidence.
The protest continues.
Capt. Chaos